Interpersonal Needs, Firo

Fundamental Interpersonal Relationship Orientation Interpersonal, FIRO, are the relations between people. Each party takes account of the other; behavior is affected by the other or determined by expectations of another. Interpersonal Behavior, otherwise known as FIRO-B, refers to a person’s feelings and actions. People join groups to satisfy interpersonal needs. Interpersonal needs are based on self-image. Being a distinct person – having a particular identity, happens and shows early in the group formation process.

Our needs to be included help drive how we communicate, three basic human needs are Inclusion, control and affection. Inclusion The need to matter so people will care about you. Refers to feeling of importance to the extent to which we include ourselves with others. Inclusion reveals itself in people that want to be attended to, wanting to attract attention and/or wanting interaction with others. People with low inclusion needs tend to be introverted and withdrawn.

An example would be; “No one is interested in me, because I am worthless, I’m not going to risk being ignored, so I will stay away. ” Control Refers to feelings of competence, being seen as able to cope with the world, to the extent of which we control other’s actions or desire for them to guide us. If inclusion is about belonging, then control is about winning. A person seeking inclusion wants to be part of the argument, win or lose. One seeing control wants to win, even if he’s not accepted by the group. Control also deals in areas of power, influence and authority.

Someone in the extremes of control needs, desire the control over others – and over one’s future, or the desire to be controlled – to have responsibility lifted The person who will not take responsibility for anything, an example, “Whatever you say boss. ” Affection Refers to the feeling of being lovable, definition in your text is simplistic. An amount to which we express affection to others and desire that from them. Close emotional feelings between two people – only between two people. Inclusion needs and control needs can exit between dyads or etween one person and the group. Last phase to emerge in human relationship Conclusions Inclusion is about prominence, control is about winning and affection is about interpersonal relationships. In inclusion phase people encounter each-other and decide if they will continue the association. In control the confront each other and work out how they will be related. In order to continue the relationship, affection ties must form and people must embrace each other to form a lasting bond, and also say goodbye. Control deals with power while affection deals with emotional ties.

Get down to business vs. get to know each other. References Class Book Joining Together: Group Theory and Group Skills Custom Tenth Edition David W. Johnson, Frank R. Johnson Websites * About Personality http://www. aboutpersonality. co. uk/about_firob. html * Cowsfrommywindow http://www. cowsfrommywindow. com/assessmentsfirob. php * Leadership Champions http://leadershipchamps. wordpress. com/2011/03/28/firo-b-an-excellent-instrument-to-assess-your-interpersonal-behavioral-needs/ * Wikipedia http://en. wikipedia. org/wiki/Fundamental_interpersonal_relations_orientation